Hey Reader,
We all know the thrill of making dreams a reality.
Most people feel stuck in the tension between believing, behaving, and achieving their deepest desires because they haven’t built the internal structure to hold the scale of what they intend to achieve.
In today’s issue, we’ll uncover how to bridge the gap between who you are and who you’re becoming.
💭 You become what you believe
Most people know Michael Jordan for the championships.
But the part that actually shaped him happened way earlier.
When he was fifteen, he didn’t make his high school varsity team.
Jordan said in an interview, “It was embarrassing. It was disappointing. But I knew I had to get better.”
He would wake up before school, practice alone, finish practice, then practice again.
He said, “I practiced so much because I never wanted to feel that way again.”
He believed he could be great, but his belief wasn’t enough.
His habits had to rise to it.
His behavior had to match what he said he wanted.
And the next year, he made varsity.
Later in his career, when reporters asked him about the pressure of big moments, he said,
“I failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
That line makes more sense when you look at where he started.
He became the greatest because he built the behaviors and habits that shaped him into the person capable of holding that dream.
🧠 The gap between believing, behaving, and becoming
People believe in their dreams, but get stuck somewhere between the belief and acting like they believe.
It’s easy to feel the burst of energy at the start.
Making plans, mapping out a strategy, and the like.
But when life happens, or something doesn’t go as expected, energy dips.
Because they haven’t built the identity that can carry the scale of their vision with all its ups and downs.
So they swing between extremes.
Fired up and focused, then exhausted and doubting themselves.
Then back to trying again, or sometimes making no attempt to try again.
It’s understandable.
If you don’t build a strong identity of who you intend to become, your behavior can’t sustain all that comes with it.
And when the behavior slips, the vision feels further away than it really is.
This cycle creates burnout, overwhelm, and a perceived feeling of underperformance.
Because you expect the results of someone you haven’t fully become yet.
❤️ Intent needs to meet you acting
Becoming your biggest vision takes guts.
Guts to act and think like you already achieved it.
When you act on your intentions long enough, those behaviors become habits.
You’re not necessarily relying on motivation anymore.
You start doing things that match the future you, not just the present you.
You make decisions that reflect your bigger vision, not your current comfort.
The more your habits support the idea of your dream, the more your vision stops feeling far from reach.
There’s less negotiation in your head.
There’s less drama in your emotions.
Less compromise here and there.
And there’s a quiet confidence that comes from knowing your behavior supports the life you say you want.
So even when things don’t go as planned, you know better than to quit.
Because you’re already living the identity of who you’re becoming.
You have the resilience, grit, fortitude, and passion to do it over and again if that’s what it takes.
You already see yourself living the dream.
All you gotta do is make it happen.
🤲 Build the habits that can hold your biggest vision
The gap between where you are and where your head is at can feel out of reach sometimes.
Practicing these 6 steps can help you bridge that gap faster:
- First, it’s the intention. Ask yourself: what am I trying to become, not just accomplish? Your intent gives your behavior a clear direction to follow. Make it unapologetically you. When your intention matters more to you than anyone else, your behavior is rooted in something too strong to bend to curveballs.
- Then a behavior. Figuring out steps that draw you closer to your goal is not all you need. Ask yourself: “If I already achieved this, what are the things I’ll be doing?” “What kind of decisions will I be making?” “What would my routine look like?” “What will I say yes to?” “What will I say no to?” When you understand the identity of who you’re becoming, you have clear actions to embody.
- Then a habit. Repeat the behavior of who you’re becoming enough times that your mind starts recognizing, “Oh… this is what we do now.”
- Then a practice. Keep doing it even on the days you don’t feel like it. This is where identity starts to form. Practice is what filters out emotion and builds the steadiness you need for big goals.
- Then a second nature. This is where your choice starts reflecting the character of who you’re becoming. The decisions, the people you’re surrounded with, the choices, the yeses, and the no’s.
- Then it’s simply who you are. By now, you've groomed a mindset that lives through the highs & lows of your boldest dream. And that strong mindset sees you through achieving it, no matter what comes your way.
🎯 Who are you becoming?
Are you building the habits that match the life you keep saying you want?
What would happen if your daily behavior finally reflected the future you’re walking toward?
Every big vision asks for a version of you the world hasn’t met yet.
As James Clear said, “Every action you take is a vote for the person you want to become.”
You’ve got this.
With appreciation,
Huw
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Huw Edwards
Founder & CEO, h3.xyz
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